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Episode 8: Candor

 

 

Show Notes:

  • Not all cultures have the same challenges with being candid.
  • Kim Scott’s Radical Candor book addresses “caring deeply and challenging directly”.
  • Candor requires courage in the moment – believing it’s worth it to say what needs to be said.
  • Reframing and getting curious about behavior helps us get at the “thing behind the thing” in a more authentic way.
  • Candor is not shooting from the hip – it requires preparation.
  • Some techniques can help us have a candid conversation like using I vs You language.
  • Our candor role models are very interested in what we are thinking but might not be saying and are willing to probe on it when he/she is attuned to the non-verbals.
  • Effective candor requires a person to be good with neutrality and desire to see things another way.
  • It might require some time and space – perhaps postponing the conversation – until you can get to a curiosity mindset before having the conversation.
  • The highest level of listening is listening with the intent of having your mind changed – not trying to think through your rebuttal.
  • Amygdala hijacks can be avoided if you position yourself to avoid the emotional threat response.
  • The DDI STAR and STAR/AR models are great models for sharing specific information for positive and constructive feedback.
  • Book recommendations:
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Episode 6: Self-Development

 

 

Show Notes:

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
  • More downtime is great like personal retreats, mindfulness, prayer, yoga and relaxing vacations
  • Gratitude journaling is a good method for reflecting on your blessings
  • Volunteer leadership opportunities can be very rewarding and are within everyone’s reach
  • 70-20-10 model of development
70/20/10 model of development
70/20/10 model of development
  • More frequent breaks help improve productivity, mindfulness and give you a chance to reflect
  • Accountability partners and coaches help keep you focused and give feedback on your progress
  • Book: Insight by Tasha Eurich
  • Ask for feedback by writing “What is something that might be getting in the way of me [fill in the blank with your development goal]?” on the front of a notecard.  Have your peer group respond with anonymous feedback on the back of that notecard. This feedback will be a major gift for your development.
  • Don’t try to climb the mountain to the top of your goal too quickly or you may find it overwhelming. Take baby steps and start the journey!
  • Book: FYI: For Your Improvement by Korn Ferry – look for used copies to save money; older editions are still quite useful
  • Book: Before Happiness by Shawn Achor
  • Book: Boundaries series by Henry Cloud & John Townsend
  • Brene Brown has created some wonderful resources in a variety of media formats including
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Episode 2: Emotional Intelligence

Show Notes: 

  1. Self Awareness – recognize moods, emotions and drives
  2. Self-Regulation – control/re-direct disruptive impulses and moods; think before act
    • How to develop Self-Regulation: WAIT – Why Am I Talking?
  3. Motivation – passion to work for reasons beyond money & status
    • How to develop Motivation: Reframing – finding the good in difficult situations/interaction
  4. Empathy – understand emotional makeup of others; treating people according to emotional reactions
  5. Social Skills – managing relationships and building networks; find & build rapport

 

  • Emotional Intelligence benefits of travel
  • Faith’s role in emotional intelligence