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Episode 10: Island Vacations

 

Show notes:

 

 

    • Molokai
      • Molokai: The Novel by Alan Brennert
      • Kalaupapa tour (Sandy likes the airplane option vs the daredevil donkeys) – historic location where Hansen disease (lepers) patients were relegated in the early 1900s
    • Hawaii Island, also known as the Big Island

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    • Tip: take Toilet paper with you – you can’t rely on it to be available at tourist stops, restaurants or on bus tours
  • Iceland
    • Blue Lagoon hot springs
    • Be prepared to pay a lot for most food; lamb and seafood are the way to go as they are native
  • Indonesia – Lombok
    • Black “Sand” beach

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  • Australia – Sydney
    • Bondi Beach

 

 

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    • Sydney Harbor bridge climb

 

 

  • French Polynesia
    • Bora Bora

 

 

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Episode 8: Candor

 

 

Show Notes:

  • Not all cultures have the same challenges with being candid.
  • Kim Scott’s Radical Candor book addresses “caring deeply and challenging directly”.
  • Candor requires courage in the moment – believing it’s worth it to say what needs to be said.
  • Reframing and getting curious about behavior helps us get at the “thing behind the thing” in a more authentic way.
  • Candor is not shooting from the hip – it requires preparation.
  • Some techniques can help us have a candid conversation like using I vs You language.
  • Our candor role models are very interested in what we are thinking but might not be saying and are willing to probe on it when he/she is attuned to the non-verbals.
  • Effective candor requires a person to be good with neutrality and desire to see things another way.
  • It might require some time and space – perhaps postponing the conversation – until you can get to a curiosity mindset before having the conversation.
  • The highest level of listening is listening with the intent of having your mind changed – not trying to think through your rebuttal.
  • Amygdala hijacks can be avoided if you position yourself to avoid the emotional threat response.
  • The DDI STAR and STAR/AR models are great models for sharing specific information for positive and constructive feedback.
  • Book recommendations:
Girls Trip 2017 - Sarasota, Florida!
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Episode 7: Girls Trips

Show Notes:

1. What are positive benefits of Girls Trips?
2.  Why do we feel guilty about taking Girls Trips? What are other obstacles?
  • Mom guilt is hard to overcome but it is worth it for the whole family for Mom to get a quick recharge
  • Money and time are other challenges
  • Prioritizing self vs family or home expenses and spending money on self vs family//home
3. How to overcome obstacles?
  • Start small – consider a driving trip that is only a few hours from home and not as costly
  • Divide and conquer on the tasks
  • Make a goal to get away and budget ahead for the trip
  • Decide how you want to split costs and track spending
4. How are Girls Trips different than other trips?
  • Sometimes I don’t do much planning at all…it’s so rare to just “show up” as many people share the burden of planning.
  • Less stress only worrying only about myself (and cheaper than taking the whole family!!)
5. Girls Trip Favorites:
Best trips for large groups?
  • Rebecca – somewhere near home so more people can afford to go
  • Michelle – a retreat hotel with a lot of variety in options
  • Sandy – consider vacation home rental with a lot of bedrooms and common shared space

Budget-friendly?

  • Rebecca – Vegas (#sorrynotsorry) – recommend Priceline for good hotel deals
  • Michelle – Driving trips with nearby free festivals or museums
  • Sandy – Visit friends and take advantage of some nights with no hotel; Pagosa Springs was a recent favorite near a friend’s house in Colorado Springs

Most relaxing?

  • Rebecca – Napa
  • Michelle – Any beach
  • Sandy – Lake Austin near Austin, TX

Best city?

Quick and impactful?

  • Rebecca – French Lick, Indiana & Downtown Indy (where we get to mention riding elephants again…oh, and a biofreeze massage)
  • Michelle – Sarasota & Epcot Food and Wine Festival (Orlando)
  • Sandy – short cruise from Florida to Bahamas

Spiritual rejuvenation?

  • Rebecca – Memphis – Graceland but more seriously the Civil Rights Museum
  • Michelle – Trips to a faith-based conference with sightseeing on the side
  • Sandy- Lake Austin
All time favorite?
  • Rebecca – Maui
  • Michelle – Maui; Lake Austin gets honorable mention
  • Sandy- French Polynesia island cruise including Bora Bora

Next up?

  • Rebecca – Lisbon, Portugal & the Canary Islands
  • Michelle – Palm Beach, Florida
  • Sandy – Asheville, North Carolina
6. Parting advice on taking a fabulous girls trip?
  • Save a date and book well in advance; unless you pay upfront for a hotel, you can usually cancel very close to your travel dates without penalty
  • Create a schedule of events with variety; make plans that suit nearly everyone’s needs and then just go with the flow – not everyone may want to do everything and that’s ok
  • Agree on a budget and secure some of the costs so you have real commitment
  • Don’t sweat the details – you’ll have a blast even if some small things go wrong

 

 

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Episode 6: Self-Development

 

 

Show Notes:

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
  • More downtime is great like personal retreats, mindfulness, prayer, yoga and relaxing vacations
  • Gratitude journaling is a good method for reflecting on your blessings
  • Volunteer leadership opportunities can be very rewarding and are within everyone’s reach
  • 70-20-10 model of development
70/20/10 model of development
70/20/10 model of development
  • More frequent breaks help improve productivity, mindfulness and give you a chance to reflect
  • Accountability partners and coaches help keep you focused and give feedback on your progress
  • Book: Insight by Tasha Eurich
  • Ask for feedback by writing “What is something that might be getting in the way of me [fill in the blank with your development goal]?” on the front of a notecard.  Have your peer group respond with anonymous feedback on the back of that notecard. This feedback will be a major gift for your development.
  • Don’t try to climb the mountain to the top of your goal too quickly or you may find it overwhelming. Take baby steps and start the journey!
  • Book: FYI: For Your Improvement by Korn Ferry – look for used copies to save money; older editions are still quite useful
  • Book: Before Happiness by Shawn Achor
  • Book: Boundaries series by Henry Cloud & John Townsend
  • Brene Brown has created some wonderful resources in a variety of media formats including
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Episode 5: Living through Change

 

Change cartoon
No takers on leading change?

CEB Research – https://www.cebglobal.com/insights/change-management.html

What tools or models do you think are most helpful to people leading change?

When you see someone who just has a knack for championing change, what characteristic/trait sticks out to you? (What makes them great?)

  • Flexibility
  • Curiosity
  • Passion
  • Authenticity
  • Aware of stakeholders

What are often overlooked execution strategies leaders miss as they get wrapped up on “doing the change”?

  • Celebrating small wins
  • Anticipating resistance – more info on Pre-Mortems
  • Slow down to move fast – aligning on the front end
  • Knowing when it’s ok to direct change vs allow for more collective intelligence/wisdom of the crowd – Kerber and Buono research (this is a bit more academic but good stuff)

How can the leader solidify the change in the culture?

  • Provide opportunities for 2-way conversation with employees
  • Communicate, communicate, communicate
  • Reward the right behaviors
  • Modeling what you want to see in others
  • Select people who align with and advance the culture you are building
  • Know when to change talent on a project team to reinvigorate a change

What strategies do you use to personally cope with change?

  • Reminding myself that it’s usually not as bad as I assume it will be
  • Focus on gratitude even in the midst of pain
  • Not ignore our feelings
  • Giving up control
  • Being intentional about how you are spending your social time and making sure you are not isolating yourself

How do you help those who struggle with resistance to change?

  • Demonstrating empathy
  • Not passing judgment when someone is struggling
  • Provide personal examples
  • Change style indicator – brochure
  • William Bridges’ transitions model

What change books and resources have been helpful?

It seems like all industries, fields, even hobbies are changing a lot based on digital and other trends. How do you stay on top – or in front, when possible – of these changes?

  • Think of other ways to do things you do today especially ways to use digital tools differently
  • Twitter and LinkedIn helps connect global thought leaders
  • Conferences or Professional development sessions and organizations

 

BONUS!

Girls’ Trip Elephant Adventure pictures – Sandy on an elephant at the Indianapolis Zoo

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Episode 4: Traveling the British Isles

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Pictures from travels to the British Isles:

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London and London suburbs:

·        Crown Jewels in the London Tower

·        Piccadilly Circus

·        Wimbledon

·        Harrods – enjoy the café’s crepes

 

UK outside of London:

·        Stonehenge

·        Oxford

·        Cambridge

·        Stratford Upon Avon

·        Windsor Castle

·        Warrick castle

 

Also recommend attending a High Tea and taking a hop on, hop off bus tour.

 

Scotland:

·        Edinburgh castle

·        Glasgow

·        Near Scotland – York

 

Ireland:

·        Cliffs of Moher

·        Wicklow

·        Glendalough

We didn’t mention it, but also recommend the Temple Bar District in Dublin for a good Irish singalong.