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Episode 8: Candor

 

 

Show Notes:

  • Not all cultures have the same challenges with being candid.
  • Kim Scott’s Radical Candor book addresses “caring deeply and challenging directly”.
  • Candor requires courage in the moment – believing it’s worth it to say what needs to be said.
  • Reframing and getting curious about behavior helps us get at the “thing behind the thing” in a more authentic way.
  • Candor is not shooting from the hip – it requires preparation.
  • Some techniques can help us have a candid conversation like using I vs You language.
  • Our candor role models are very interested in what we are thinking but might not be saying and are willing to probe on it when he/she is attuned to the non-verbals.
  • Effective candor requires a person to be good with neutrality and desire to see things another way.
  • It might require some time and space – perhaps postponing the conversation – until you can get to a curiosity mindset before having the conversation.
  • The highest level of listening is listening with the intent of having your mind changed – not trying to think through your rebuttal.
  • Amygdala hijacks can be avoided if you position yourself to avoid the emotional threat response.
  • The DDI STAR and STAR/AR models are great models for sharing specific information for positive and constructive feedback.
  • Book recommendations:

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