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Episode 8: Candor

 

 

Show Notes:

  • Not all cultures have the same challenges with being candid.
  • Kim Scott’s Radical Candor book addresses “caring deeply and challenging directly”.
  • Candor requires courage in the moment – believing it’s worth it to say what needs to be said.
  • Reframing and getting curious about behavior helps us get at the “thing behind the thing” in a more authentic way.
  • Candor is not shooting from the hip – it requires preparation.
  • Some techniques can help us have a candid conversation like using I vs You language.
  • Our candor role models are very interested in what we are thinking but might not be saying and are willing to probe on it when he/she is attuned to the non-verbals.
  • Effective candor requires a person to be good with neutrality and desire to see things another way.
  • It might require some time and space – perhaps postponing the conversation – until you can get to a curiosity mindset before having the conversation.
  • The highest level of listening is listening with the intent of having your mind changed – not trying to think through your rebuttal.
  • Amygdala hijacks can be avoided if you position yourself to avoid the emotional threat response.
  • The DDI STAR and STAR/AR models are great models for sharing specific information for positive and constructive feedback.
  • Book recommendations:
London Eye
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Tip 100: Favorite Tips (part 2)

Thanks for helping us celebrate the last of our #100days100traveltips

Here’s a quick summary of our favorites:

Top booking/reservation tip?
  • Rebecca – when using discount sites, like Priceline, be aware of the cancellation policies as many are non-refundable
  • Michelle – no need to get insurance through rental car companies; your insurance should cover you
  • Sandy – booking directly through the provider (as opposed to a wholesaler) is helpful if reservation changes need to be made later
Top travel technology tip?
  • Rebecca – Hotel electronic keys via your phone are becoming more common and are very convenient
  • Michelle – make sure you have chargers and if you forgot it they have extras at hotels
  • Sandy –  keep a small travel technology bag stocked with extra charging cords, a back up portable charger and earbuds
Top global travel tip?
  • Rebecca – Google translate is amazing, especially for visually translating menus and signs
  • Michelle – Exchange roughly $200 USD and make sure you get some small bills/coins to use right away
  • Sandy – Explore your international calling/data plan options before you travel internationally
Cuba
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Tip 99: Favorite Tips (part 1)

We appreciate anyone who read all #100days100traveltips that might have just taken a bit over 100 days.  But anything good is worth waiting for, right? 😉  Here’s a quick summary of our favorites:
Top Airport tip?
  • Rebecca – don’t expect USB charging ports to work – the hardly ever do – so you’ll want to carry a wall plug and find an outlet near a seat or in a restaurant
  • Michelle – buy a snack – you never know how long you’ll be on the flight
  • Sandy – bring a refillable water bottle

Top Hotel tip?

  • Rebecca – join the rewards programs and take advantage of dual reward credit earning with other travel partners like the rental car
  • Michelle – ask for a better room or upgrade, the worst they can say is no
  • Sandy –  be aware of resort fees!

Top Road trip tip?

  • Rebecca – look at the gas gauge to know which side to fuel up your rental car
  • Michelle – take lots of snacks, especially for driving at night
  • Sandy –  Look for fun opportunities to make fun pit stops along the way at unique places
Munich sunset
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Tip 97: Best of (part 1)

As we round out our #100traveltips, we are reflecting on our favorite trips and recapping them here.

Favorite European vacation destination?
  • Rebecca – Munich, Germany Oktoberfest
  • Michelle – Salzburg, Austria
  • Sandy – Santorini, Greece
Favorite beach vacation destination?
  • Rebecca – Catalina Island, California
  • Michelle – Maui
  • Sandy – Maui

 

Tybee Island, Georgia
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Tip 98: Best of (part 2)

Hello! We are rounding out our #100traveltrips with a list of our favorites:

Road trip destination?
  • Rebecca – Chicago
  • Michelle – Nashville
  • Sandy –  Memphis
Cruise destination?
  • Rebecca – Cuba
  • Michelle – Alaska
  • Sandy – The islands of French Polynsesia

Favorite trip of all time?

  • Rebecca – tie between Ireland and Australia (Australia was a work trip or it would probably win hands down)
  • Michelle – French Polynesia
  • Sandy –  Ahhh….I cannot pick one!  French Polynesia, Australia and New Zealand are at the top of my list.
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Tip 96: Book Spa Appointments in Advance

This is especially important if more than one of you are trying to book appointments for services at the same time. Consider booking a couple of months in advance – the more people you are booking for the earlier you should call to book. Doing this via phone rather than online can help to ensure everyone gets the correct appointments.

Also, remember to utilize an onsite spa at your hotel (or go to nearby hotel that has one) if you end up with sore muscles or get a stiff neck from sleeping in a different bed (happens to almost all of us) rather than just pushing through or taking medications. Oftentimes a quick 30 minute massage for the painful spots gets you back in business.

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Tip 95: Buying Souvenirs

It can be easy to buy souvenirs for yourself of others if you collect specific trinkets such as t-shirts, bottle openers, magnets, etc.  However, many people do not have collectibles and yet we want to remember the trip.

Consider buying something that you will regularly use, and it will remind you of the trip every trip you use or wear it.  For example, buy jewelry native to your destination, perfume or soap that reminds you of a local scent, or a dress/shirt that will remind you of the trip.